Here Comes the Cold, Here Come the Cuffs
Chinaza Iwe, Culture Section Editor, BA History and World Philosophies
The seasons have changed and cuffing season is upon us. What is it about the cold weather that has us all feeling sad, lonely, and ready to rush into relationships? For those of us who don't know, cuffing season is that period of British gloom between October and March where people feel desperate to be in a relationship. Why? It’s still unknown. Maybe it's the new academic year filled with new perspectives and fresh blood, the cute winter museum and Winter Wonderland dates, or the ridiculous energy prices making having someone to warm your bed easier and cheaper than paying the heating bill. Regardless, the season is here and watch out because you may end up in an odd place this winter.
The obvious victims of cuffing season of course are freshers. In a new place with new people, after a summer rebrand, who wouldn't want to rush into a situationship? Beware the age-old warning against flatcest - it rarely ever works out, and when the season is over you’ll find yourself with no escape as you live with your ex-lover. But why do so many fall into the trap? Well, convenience of course, not having to leave for companionship, being able to just slip next door. British weather is, as we all know, terrible, and not having to brave it makes flatcest all the more alluring. Buckle up freshers, you're in for an interesting season. To the second and third years, you're not exempt. There's just as much danger for you to be cuffed. Study dates, friends you've always had a little thing for, the quiet one in class with insightful thoughts…
Despite how it may seem I don't completely condemn cuffing season. If you get out unscathed you could have a lovely winter fling. Cute photos, a warm bed and matching couple costumes for Halloween. Cuffing season is a true reflection of human nature. We’re social beings in search of companionship, and we have access to all the apps. The humanness and vulnerability in wanting to be close to someone is quite beautiful. Wanting a dopamine hit or to avoid the winter blues is more than understandable, but there are much better ways than setting yourself up for failure. When the sun comes back to greet us, our critical thinking often comes out to play as well. So before you rush into something, ask yourself if it’ll still be worth it when spring is here.
Winter can be about so much more than flings, and friendships can be built in the cold: knuckling down over assignments in a new cafe, game nights inside to battle the cold. As people, we’re seeking closeness, but that doesn't have to be romantic or physical. It can be platonic and pure.
